I am very happy to hear about the ruling against Prop 8 yesterday in California. It warms my heart to hear that a federal judge actually sees things from the eyes of his/her country’s citizens. Isn’t that the way it should be? I mean, aren’t the judges supposed to be there to crack down on injustices against our constitution? While listening to Rachael Moddow on the net this morning, thanks to Queerty, I heard the most amazing, logical argument against the individual states voting on the legality of gay marriage.
Basically, she said that when voting on minority rights by majority vote, you’re going to get exactly what you wanted. THE MAJORITY! We in the GLBT community know and realize we are a minority. There are enough kids in foster care to show that. There are enough straight divorce cases crowding the judiciary system for us to know that. It’s been a given since the beginning of time. And yes, there were gay people back then too. In every tribe of human creation. And in hindsight, there were probably some gay chimpanzees or gorillas before them! LOL. But that’s another heated subject in itself.
I was totally annoyed when my state of current residence, Georgia, and my home state, Alabama, both voted against gay marriage. Was I in any way expecting the measure to pass? Not in the slightest. I know all to well the feelings of the “majority” in the South. “Being gay is a SIN and you will BURN in the fiery pits of HELL!” Yeah, yeah…I’ve heard that before. Thank you Brother ____ ______. The natural human desire is for his/her location of birth/residence to progress. Progression is the best policy for the continuance of the human race. If you don’t progress, you get left behind. The only issue in that is people can’t progress when they have been raised with thoughts of hatred inbred (no pun intended) in their minds. One ounce of hatred will fester into a lifetime of bigotry and ignorance. Hence what has happened in 90% of the southeast US.
Being one that voted in the GA election, I stood in line of hundreds of people trying to get to the ballot machine. I, like just about every person in that line, had a look of confusion on my face as to the clear meaning of the question we were to decide. Is this saying that if I vote YES, I am for or against the measure? If I vote NO, will I be condemning me and all the people in this state seeking equality? I, for one, remember looking up and seeing other people looking at me with the face of, “What should I say?” It boggles me how we as a democracy cannot have a simple “Do you want gay and lesbian citizens to have the right to marry?” as a question on the ballot. We would have been crystal clear on our impending choice. Oh…that’s right! We live in a country of law makers, not sense makers. Case solved.
The obvious reasons for many of the votes causing the hatred laws to pass is the way in which those people were raised. Many of us belong to families who are deep into the religious way of living. It’s not our fault that we ended up in the Bible Belt with churches on every corner and Republican signs in every yard. It might not be our fault to have been born into that way of thinking. It, however, is our fault if we choose to continue on that path in adulthood. Along with age should come responsibility, education, and the ability to open our minds and our hearts. How did Jesus say this?
11When I was a child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things.12For now we see through a glass, darkly; but then face to face: now I know in part; but then shall I know even as also I am known. – 1 Corinthians 13: 11-12, KJV
Yes, I know many passages in the Bible just as those people who have cast me out or berated me because of who I am. There hasn’t been many, but the few have spoken loud enough to be heard. I digress.
Getting down to the point, Prop 8 was essentially a way the majority could hold the minority under their thumbs. I’m not saying that everyone who voted NO on Prop 8 were gay. There were, I’m sure, many straight, equality-loving people who can see the injustice and personally know someone gay in their lives voted NO as well. To those people, we thank you from the bottom of our hearts. We should be giving you all a toaster! Ours have worked wonderfully since we came out of the closet!
I have never asked my father, nor my brother and sister, which way they voted in the Alabama election. It would probably be better if I never knew. Our relationship is one that I am deeply thankful. They can see things the way they want or need to as to get through their own lives. I would only hope they see the love and bond my partner and I share for one another with or without having a legal license from any state. The love of 10-15 people I call my family is much more important than the millions who reside inside a political border.
Great going, California! You’ve received what you wanted. Now help the rest of us get that if you can.